May192013
“Some men who want to compliment random women on the street are genuinely good guys who just don’t understand why their comments might be unwelcome. Some men who want to compliment random women on the street are creepy predators. Most are somewhere in between, and guess what? I don’t know you, I don’t know your life, and I have no idea if you’re going to leave it at “Hey, you look good in that dress!” or follow it up with “But you’d look better without it! Har har! C’mon, where’re you going? I know you heard me! Fucking cunt, nobody wants your fat ass anyway, bitch.”

When you compliment a random woman who doesn’t know you, no matter how nice you are about it, there’s a good chance she’s going to freak out internally because for all she knows, you could be that latter type. And I get that it’s really unfair that women would just assume that about you. I get that it sucks that sometimes, expressing totally reasonable opinions like “hey you’re hot” will make women terrified of you or furious at you. That’s not fair.

But if you’re going to lay the blame for that somewhere, for fuck’s sake, don’t blame the woman. Blame all the guys who have called her a bitch and a cunt for ignoring their advances. Blame all the guys who may have harassed, abused, or assaulted her in the past. Blame all the people who may never do such a thing themselves, but who were quick to blame her and tell her to just get over it. Blame the fact that if she stops and talks to you and then something bad happens, people will blame her for stopping and talking to you.”

Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason (via brute-reason)

I posted this as an example of how to frame these issues in a way that doesn’t automatically force men into defensive postures and actually might help some people understand more fully why things are the way they are. The phrasing of “blame all the men WHO” is so much more effective than “Blame men.” 

I am a man. I get defensive when you blame a group I am part of. But “blame the men WHO harass?” Oh, sure! I’ll blame them! I have no need to defend that! I’m not one of them! You’re right! I’m with you against those guys!”

Of course, we should only communicate like this if we want to, you know, improve our society.

Or we could keep making combative statements filled with sweeping offensive generalities and mocking individuals solely because they are men, or women, or feminist, or conservative…because it makes us feel superior.  

Because that seems to be changing a whole lot of hearts and minds, right?

Seriously. I’m about to unfollow some people who I agree with on almost every conceivable issue solely because I can’t take their dismissiveness towards anyone not like them.

Ag

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May172013

We’re moving to Texas!!!

whenrobotsreproduce:

Still waiting for the paper work, but Kellen has been offered a job in Austin, and it looks like we only have a few more weeks left in Portland. :) 

YAY! Also, good luck with your housing search. Start yesterday!

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May152013

megsokay:

The first trailer for About Time written/directed by Richard Curtis, and way more lovely than I anticipated (based on just this trailer).

Look how cute!

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11AM
between-letters:

Fantastic.

For Brigid.

between-letters:

Fantastic.

For Brigid.

May142013

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11AM

ya’ll I have been crazy productive today and I feel great about it.

May132013

Harry Potter is tired of you

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10AM
“It had flaws, but what does that matter when it comes to matters of the heart? We love what we love. Reason does not enter into it. In many ways, unwise love is the truest love. Anyone can love a thing because. That’s as easy as putting a penny in your pocket. But to love something despite. To know the flaws and love them too. That is rare and pure and perfect.” Patrick Rothfuss, The Wise Man’s Fear (via jealousofclouds)
10AM

thefrogman:

Lessons from a Dog by Patrick Moberg [website | tumblr | twitter]

[h/t: nevver]

May112013

I got online to pay my cell phone bill. That was an hour ago and I still haven’t done that yet.

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